My responses to people need to based on my personality, not based on the behavior of others. Most of the time we are not comfortable with our reactions. And most of them are based on how the person in front of us behave with us. Our own personality gets lost in the whole process of reacting. If I keep changing based on how other people behave with me, my personality is nowhere to be found.
For example, I like to wish “Good morning” to everyone I meet. But if 2-3 people don’t reply back due to whatever the reason, I stop wishing to all other 20 people those who will. Why do I have to change my courteous personality for anyone?
We keep on changing our personality so many times that we forget what our true nature is.
The way we think and behave is not for other people. It is first for ourselves because we are the first ones to experience it.
Let's take charge of our mind, instead of trying to control others. And stop expecting that if they change, then my mind will be in control. We have so many expectations from others. Let's concentrate how we want our relationship to be instead of making an effort to make others happy. Making others happy is very genuine effort but it is dependent on others feelings which can be dangerous.
Let us choose how we want to think, feel and be in every relationship. We have always tried to make others happy because we thought when they will be happy then I will be happy.
Relationships are not actions, it is the energy. The energy which is exchanged while being in a relationship.
When we do something for others; let us understand that we choose to do it because they matter to us. Thus we are doing it for ourselves then we will be happy.
Taking our mind to TV, shopping and other distractions is only a deviation from the pain. It is not happiness because the healing has not happened.
It is like when you have a tooth ache and you watch a movie on TV. You will forget about tooth pain.And as soon as you switch the TV off, you will feel the pain again. It is not that the tooth was healed and starts paining. We distracted our mind and forgot about your tooth. Healing never happened. We are suppressing our pain. We need to take charge and stop running from the problem.
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